Maybe being single isn't so bad...

Nope, I didn't hook up with some random girls or anything.

The key to ever having a successful relationship, is to be happy with yourself first. You have to be happy single, before you can be happy with a relationship.

So I'm pretty much trying to find things that I like about myself, and things I like about being single. Can't say my list is long or anything, but it's an effort that I feel is a step in the right direction.

On another note, though... I was talking to my good friend Dante today who's in a tight relationship with a girl that he loves a lot. I told him something that I will share with everyone else.

I'll state the mistakes I DID make, so that they weren't so in vein. Hopefully everyone out there will be able to learn from my mistakes, and even relate to them.

I let my relationship get routine. I let it become usual, and I took it for granted. I didn't think of my ex as a truly unique person, but rather a part of "us".

This was a critical error, for sure, and I now see that. This is an extremely common mistake that we all make. We take our gf's (or bf's, for the girls out there reading this) for granted a lot, after enough time has passed.

The day things become "routine", is the first day that your relationship stops moving forward, and starts moving backwards.

I wish I treated my ex special more, but I can't with a level head, truly blame myself 100%. I know she took me for granted too, and I don't blame her. Because we all do it. Hopefully in the future, though, I can avoid this mistake.

I told my good friend Dante this, as I said. He took the advice to heart, and hopefully it will help his relationship. I only wish someone told me the same advice when I was only a few months in with my ex... but then again, I'm sure I'd still forget it after enough time had elapsed, and go right back to human nature... which is to begin to expect whatever is 'always there', to always be there.

I am beginning to feel some anger about some various things she did do/say to me, though.

Which is a good thing, for one simple reason:

"Anger and Agony are better than Misery".